Every single one of us consciously and unconsciously have belief systems about ourselves, the world and other people. It is the self-limiting beliefs that create pain in our lives. The four most common self-limiting beliefs I see regularly in my psychology practice are: I’m not important/I don’t matter, I’m alone, I’m not good enough/a failure, and I’m defective/something wrong with me.
These limiting beliefs create emotional triggers and pain in our lives. Have you ever, at some point in your life, felt really angry when you’re partner didn’t listen to you, or if they got angry at you. Perhaps you were triggered with the limiting belief that you’re failing or not important or may be rejected. Our emotions become hijacked and often we emotionally react or withdraw in order to protect ourselves.
You can shift these belief systems, but first you need to be aware of them in your daily life. Awareness, awareness, awareness! The more conscious you are of these limiting beliefs, the easier it is to shift them.