How to Decode: “No Matter What I Do It’s Not Good Enough”

Have you ever heard your partner, child/teenager, parent or boss say this – “no matter what I do it’s not good enough”? More importantly, have you ever felt or hurled this sentence out of your lips? When you feel like no matter what I do it’s not good enough, you are probably feeling discouraged, often […]

How to decode: “You Don’t Care!”

Have you ever been told “you don’t care”? Whether it’s a partner, teenager, parent or supervisor, those words are frequently tossed out of people’s mouths. Often you feel stunned, confused and don’t understand what is going on. Thoughts such as “what the hell”, “how can they possibly think that, it’s the opposite”, often race through […]

Busyness Is An Epidemic

“Busy-ness in the Tibetan tradition is considered the most extreme form of laziness. Because when you are busy you can turn your brain off. You’re on the treadmill. The only intelligence comes in the morning when you make your To Do list and you get rid of all the possible space that could happen in […]

Do You Really Have Your Partners’ Back?

When we hear or read, “you’ve got my back, I’ve got yours” what does that mean to you? Most people believe it refers to protecting each other, standing up for each other and/or helping out. My definition of this well known phrase, is having the capacity to hear your partners’ feelings especially when in conflict, […]

Supporting Our Children Manage Their Anxiety

Where did those worry free days of childhood go? Where did those long summer days of lazing, playing and getting dirty go? Those days and times are still there for some children, but not for others. Anxiety and stress in children is becoming a serious topic of discussion due to the increasing numbers in our […]

Is Your Coping Style The Need For Control?

Do you need to know what’s going to happen most of the time? Do you like to be prepared and dislike uncertainty? Do you like to be the boss? Why do we develop these needs? There is nothing right or wrong about these traits, it’s more about knowing that you may have a coping style […]

Building Positive Memories With Your Families

Have you ever chased a rainbow or followed a sunset? If you have, it’s likely something you’ve never forgotten. If you have not, then you can begin building positive memories today! According to Alfred Adler, our memories are “windows of our soul.” By keeping happy, joyful memories alive and real, we can actually feel better […]

Shrink To Fit

We all have coping styles and ‘Masks’ to help us thrive and survive daily. The beauty is, they were learned and consequently can be unlearned! I see people “playing small” in their lives by not contributing or feeling capable at work, in relationships and even with friends. These types of people may feel they have […]

Are You A Love “Catcher”?

I had the pleasure of speaking to my spiritual mentor today and once again discovered different levels of awareness. I am blessed to have connected with this person. I shared experiences of being hurt and angry at certain individuals. Part of me felt guilty and judged myself for these feelings, “I shouldn’t be feeling these […]

Perspective Taking – An Essential Tool for Life

Perspective Taking – An Essential Tool for Life The beauty of human beings is that we are all unique and different. How boring and monotonous life would be if we were all the same. One way that we humans differ, is that we have different perspectives, we see things in different ways and from different […]